No one talks about your possessions in a eulogy

It’s okay to own stuff. Collectively it helps up to live each day; to cook, to clean, somewhere to sleep, something to keep us warm.

I recently took an old mixing bowl from my grandma’s house since she didn’t use it anymore and I felt I could get real value from it. I half-joked at the time that this was the only inheritance that I wanted from her.

True inheritance is not in the physical possessions handed down to us – the heirlooms, money or estates. But in the values, experiences, memories; the legacy that our parents or other family members have decided to share with us whether they are conscious of it or not.

No one ever talks about the latest technology, the car, the house or clothes a person owned in their eulogy. If they do, I’d be worried.

That mixing bowl, while physical, represents her legacy of home cooking. She never taught me to cook herself but she is proud that she used to make her own pies, sausages, baked goods and that’s what I want to inherit from her. That and her compassion, her gratitude and her unwavering, unconditional love for her family.

Personally, I don’t want to leave behind a mountain of junk, trinkets or souvenirs. I want to leave a legacy of empowerment, betterment, sense of adventure and I feel I can’t do that effectively if I have to spend more time than necessary maintaining possessions.

What legacy would you like to leave behind?

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